Before you decide to get married, break up at least once. @Middlebrowpod
Summary
A straphanger shares an unconventional relationship test: break up at least once before getting married. The logic? You need to see someone at their worst, not just their polished relationship version. Kareem agrees, though the conversation quickly turns to the mechanics of pulling this off without being manipulative. You can't present it as a test. But if there's a fight and someone suggests breaking up, maybe don't rush to fix it. Just say "all right" and take a week. The rider reveals they broke up twice before marriage, while Kareem clocks in at ten. Red flags to watch for during the split: Andrew Tate posts captioned "the wolf is back on the hunt" or finding poop in your shoe. Both are bad signs. The group agrees no therapist would cosign this advice, but there's something to the "if you love something, let it go" philosophy.
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So, what's your take? Before you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone, make sure you've broken up at least one time.
100% agree.
Hell yeah.
I think it's a good lesson. Yes. A breakup reveals true character, right? Like when you're in a relationship, you're not showing who you really are. You're being your best version of you.
Yes. What's the quote like? If you don't like me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best. Well, you don't know what the worst is. So, you got to kind of know what the worst is. Especially if you're planning to get married.
Yes.
Till death do us a fart. Okay. So when breaking up with this person, he can't go into it being like, I'mma do the test. Yeah, yeah.
Cuz that is what I would call manipulative. It's a little toxic.
You cannot present it as the test. Yeah, yeah.
But if you get into a really big fight, Yes. There's a little window. You see the window.
The window. And and they go, "Maybe we should break up." Usually you go, "No, we shouldn't break up. Let's fix it."
Yeah. We love each other. I think at that point you go, "All right."
Yeah. You go, "All right." And just for like a week. Well, hopefully.
Because you might learn like, "You know what? I'm better off." Or do they start posting, you know, uh, Andrew Tate videos with the caption, the wolf is back on the hunt.
That's a bad guy. Do they poop in your shoe? Who knows?
That's a bad woman. That's a bad woman. Or man. Men can poop in Air Force Ones.
Are you married? I am married.
Did you break up? We have broken up.
How many times? Like two.
I'm married, too. And how many times you break up?
I think I broke up like 10 times. And that's how you know like you both have seen each other at your absolute worst. And it's the I can't quit you.
Yeah. That's the more beautiful kind. What's the what's the thing? If you love something, let it go. Yeah. How do you dodge a bullet if no one fires the gun?
You know what I'm saying?
I don't get it.
Okay.
Do you think that a therapist would uh cosign this? Definitely not.