Just because you're broken up doesn't mean it's over
Summary
Just because you're broken up doesn't mean it's over. A subway rider shares their take on second-chance romance with Kareem, who reveals he lived out this exact philosophy in his own life. He once pulled a grand romantic gesture to win back his now-wife after she told him "I'm over you." They're happily married with a baby. The conversation turns practical: if you want someone back, go no contact for a year, then create a climax moment. Sign up for the New York City Marathon, get jacked, maybe rent out the opera. Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Both agree that sometimes you need that third-act redemption period where Coldplay plays and you realize your life was better with them. The key? Look them in the eyes and prove you're different this time.
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So, what's your take? Just because you're broken up doesn't mean it's over.
100% agree. I make romcoms and I truly do believe that sometimes we need to go through our like third act redemption period. It's that part in a movie where, you know, Coldplay usually plays or something like that and you realize, you know what, I miss them and my life was better with them than without them.
I tried to follow a grand romance in my personal life. Really?
Yeah. I said I needed to be hard in the beginning and is it a will they, won't they? Sure. And then I said, "Oh my god, she's the one." And I came back and guess what she said? "I'm over you."
Yeah. I'm over you. Yeah. And I had to win her back and we're happily married with a baby.
See? Well, congratulations. I feel the exact same way. I just think that sometimes you think, "Okay, we broke up. It's over. We're never going to talk again." When really, and I have a lot of friends who are like, you know, I still kind of think about them and I say to them, "Go win their heart back." What's the best way to win someone's heart back? Well, first off, I want to say I'm not an advocate for crossing a boundary comments. Okay? I I don't think you should, you know, if they break up with you and they're—and they're like, "Do not talk to me again."
Do not talk to me again. That usually means don't talk to them again. Uh yeah, it does mean that. [laughter] Yeah. But um distance makes the heart grow fonder. I would go no contact. If you love someone and you broke up, don't talk to them for a year. Either A, you're going to get over them and find your own new love, or b you're going to realize, "Oh my god, my life is miserable without them." And create a serendipitous moment hopefully that the world brings you two together.
So, how do you get them back? You got to look them in the eyes and you got to tell them, "I love you and I want to make this work." And then they're going to be like, "Well, you got to prove it to me. You know, you broke up with me twice. How am I to trust you now?" And you say, "Trust me, I'm different." And they go, "Prove it." And then what you do is you sign up for the New York City Marathon, go crazy, start to get jacked, and you have to realize, okay, I need to be able to share myself, and I need to be able to show this person real love that they deserve by being transparent about how you feel about them and doing real things together. But I think that it needs to accumulate in a grand like like you need to rent out the opera or something. A canon event, a memory. You need to create a positive memory.
Create the climax of the love story. If you broke up with someone and you think you're still meant to be, it's still possible. Make the grand romantic gesture. Believe in that potential love and you got to know you want it.
100% agree.