Men Are More Hysterical Than Women
TV show creator, writer and producer (Deli Boys) Abdullah Saeed says men have been lying about who is really emotional. From road rage to wall punching, he breaks down why men are worse at handling their feelings and how that shapes everything around us. They get into immigrant dad guilt, the sadness hiding under male anger, and whether men actually need emotional support groups or just better friends. Credits: Host: Kareem Rahma Guest: Abdullah Saeed Creators: Kareem Rahma & Andrew Kuo Camera: Anthony DiMieri & Thomas Kasem Lim Editor: Tyler Christie Associate Producer: Ramy Shafi Artwork: Andrew Lawandus
Summary
Abdullah Saeed, creator of Deli Boys, makes a provocative claim: men are the truly hysterical gender. He points to road rage, wall punching, and explosive anger as proof that men handle emotions far worse than women, who actually process feelings in healthy ways by crying and moving on. The conversation turns dark when Abdullah reveals his immigrant father never said "I love you" except maybe once a year on his birthday, and he died when Abdullah was 27. That's 21 times total. Kareem and Abdullah debate solutions, disagreeing on therapy versus exercise, but landing on men's emotional support groups. Maybe even sleepovers with the boys? Abdullah draws the line there, needing those last couple hours of the night to himself. The real issue, they argue, is that men in power are driven by unprocessed anger and inner emptiness, which explains why society's in such rough shape.
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So, what's your take? I think that men are by far the more emotional and hysterical gender. 100% agree. 100% agree. Yeah. No, men, men are always enraged at the smallest things. I've never seen an article of like a woman that has road rage.
Yeah. Absolutely. They might be a bad driver as well. Yeah. I think everyone experiences emotions and the emotional triggers, but men emotions much more poorly, you know, and I think that historically people would say like, "Oh, women are more emotional cuz they're expressing their emotions and crying or whatever, right?" But they're getting past it. They're processing it in a healthy way. We do not do that, right?
No. No, we don't. We punch walls, punch doors, punch each other. Yeah. When we're sad, we're angry, and we're like, "Ah."
As a man, what is the worst emotion that you feel? Sadness because it's really hard to actually like feel it without just getting angry, you know, and being like, "Oh, like I'm [__] stupid for being sad." You know what I mean? And then like, you know, it's [__] up that men have essentially set up society. And and that's a big bad thing.
That's a big bad thing because look at where we're at today, right? We're not in a good place. We're not in a good place. And I think it's mostly because a lot of men with power, right, they thirst for that power because they're empty inside and they haven't cultivated themselves, right? And they are driven by their anger, right?
Yeah. We used to let men cook and now we should not. Men should literally only cook and do standup comedy. Those should be the two professions reserved for men. Everything else is done by women. It's going to turn around, right? Or do I have to get off? Oh, sorry, ladies. Okay. I'm so sorry. Thank you. I mean, I'm a little bit pissed off that the tra that we got kicked off the train. But you're really sad that we got kicked off the train.
No, I'm frustrated. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But frustration is a two-pronged thing, right? It's a two-pronged approach. And you're more in touch with the angry part of yourself, right? So, when you get frustrated, you're like, you're sad for a second, but then you blow right past it and you're like, "Fuck you, Abdullah. You [__] this up for me."
Oh, the treasure. When is the time that you regretted your emotion? H, that's a good question. You know, I think guilt is a wasted emotion. So, it's like, you know, there's a lot of times I feel guilty for something instead of trying to think about how I can do better next time. I don't know if that's a man's guilt. That might just be an immigrant's guilt.
That's a very good point. That might just be an immigrant's guilt. We all got it. But immigrant men are toxic as [__] too. You know what I mean? My dad, my dad never said, "I loved you" for his entire life. He went to the grave without saying it. Not even dead. I'm being hyperbolic. He may have said it twice. Once a year on my birthday.
Once a year is pretty good though cuz that's like 40 times, you know what I mean? That's kind of a lot.
Yeah, but he died when I was 27. So 27 times. That's [__] terrible.
Okay. No, 21. 21 times. That's even worse. I'm so sorry. It's
How do you think men should cope? What do you think the steps are? I think that men should go to therapy first of all, right?
100% disagree. Men should exercise. 100% disagree. And men should talk to other men about their feelings. 100% agree. Men's, men's group.
Yeah, I want a men's group. Men's emotional support group. Maybe have a sleepover with your boys. No, you lost me. I, I, I really need that last couple hours at the end of the night for me. You know what I mean?
Well, you can have quiet time. That's true. After you watch the movie and jerk off together, then, then you have quiet time, right?
This is why I'm not crazy about house guests, you know.